You never help anyone by being a sounding board for their problems or complaints.
99.99% of your creation is complete before you see ANY physical evidence of it.
The pleasure is our choice.
The amount of time it takes you to get from where you are to where you want to be, is only the amount of time it takes you to change the vibration within you. Instant manifestation could be yours if you could instantly change the vibration.
The reason that you call it 'grief' is because you've been programmed to believe that you should feel bad about death.