The good times and the bad times both will pass. It will pass. It will get easier. But the fact that it will get easier does not mean that it doesnâ€™t hurt now. And when people try to minimize your pain they are doing you a disservice. And when you try to minimize your own pain youâ€™re doing yourself a disservice. Donâ€™t do that. The truth is that it hurts because itâ€™s real. It hurts because it mattered. And thatâ€™s an important thing to acknowledge to yourself. But that doesnâ€™t mean that it wonâ€™t end, that it wonâ€™t get better. Because it will.
Remember that time in the minivan, twenty minutes ago, when we didn't die?
The world is broken, and all our attempts to fix it will inevitably fail, and some day all life will be extinguished from the planet and there will be no one to remember that any of us ever did anything. But this fact, strangely, does not delegitimize hope, because every now and again we find evidence that hope is helpful. This evidence, in my opinion, should be celebrated-even as we lamentï»¿ and fight the devastation.